Teenagers of Divorce

Teenagers of Divorce seem to have the most problems with the whole issue of divorce. I think part of the problem with teenagers is they are already dealing with the hormone issue. They are trying to figure out who they are as an adult, and the last thing that they want to do is have to worry about their parents. Therefore, many teenagers of divorce have behavior problems. They do not respect authority, or they try to manipulate the situations. Teenagers like younger children all need extra special treatment to get through this painful period in life.

Many teenagers of divorce act out. They do things they never did in the past. Some teenagers’s of divorce withdrawal into themselves, and look for ways to escape their life. Examples are alcohol, drugs, or fantasy worlds. While other teenagers of divorce begin to resent one parent, usually the parent that left or filed for divorce. And it does not matter if they are male or female; they see it as that parent destroyed the family.

Many times the issue of Parental Alienation is also visible, this is when one parent begins to turn the child against the other parent, also know as the target parent. Numerous studies of this issue have been conducted, and it can be a very scary situation if you find yourself in it. The book Divorce Poison will give you great insight as to how it happens, and what steps you can take to try and fight this issue. Studies have also shown that Parent Alienation has been linked to mental instability. It is a poison one parent uses on its own child to turn them againist the other parent. One of the best quotes I have found on this subject is from a Canadian Judge.

The Honorable Judge Gomery of Canada stated,

“Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child. It has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child.”

Teenagers of divorce can be very angry, and it is important to help them work through there feelings. Listen to them, and if they ask you the hard questions, answer them as best you can. Trying at all times not to degrade the other parent; remember the other parent is half your child as well. So if you are angry at the other parent, leave your hatred and anger out of it, this will only make the child feel like part of them is bad. This is not going to help your child it will only hurt them.

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Smart Divorce takes the process of dealing with teenagers of divorce either boys or girls in terms and all of us parents can learn from. We need to help these teenagers through this period of time. But we all must remember that just letting them get by with everything because you feel guilty for what we are putting them through is not doing them any justice. We must remember to keep rules in place for them. They have to understand we are giving them rules to keep them safe. If we just give teenagers a free pass, we are not helping them. We are going to make things worse for them eventually. Teenagers want to be treated like adults, but they need rules to help keep them on the right track. Teenagers are not adults, they still need our guidance to help steer them from the bad. We are shaping who and what these teenagers of divorce are going to become.

The teen years are a very impressionable; they are learning things from everyone and everywhere. If they see their mother or father upset and unhappy, then teenagers are going to be resentful. Some will stop believing in marriage and not want any kind of relationships. Others will get into relationships and not be nice to their boyfriend or girlfriend simply because they honestly have no idea what a good, solid, and loving relationship looks like. Teenagers of divorce ability to have a normal relationship with the opposite sex may be very damaged. So it is up to you to show them what a great relationship looks like and feels like. Teenagers of divorce learn just like any other, they learn by example. They watch you!! They are at a very impressionable age; we need to learn that we can still help shape these Teenage children of divorce even at this age.